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Choose Love Instead of Verbal Attacks

Updated: Jun 12

We are living in a time where the accuser of the brethren, satan (Rev 12:10) is becoming even more aggressive with his tactics. The enemy knows his time is limited and he is trying to do as much damage as he can before he gets thrown in the lake of fire (Rev. 20:10).

For example, if a person is posting or saying the most hateful, racist, sexist things, whatever the case may be, we see Christians verbally attacking that person in return by slandering or name calling. Do they actually feel justified? That would be putting themselves on the same level as satan himself, since he is the accuser of the brethren.

When Christians are name calling and slandering others, they are actually being self-righteous. To be self-righteous means “having or characterized by a certainty, especially an unfounded one, that one is totally correct or morally superior” (Webster’s dictionary). Even if you are assuming that you are correct, it doesn’t give you the permission to be hateful in return.

We are supposed to be the ones that act like Jesus, not act like the devil. Jesus is love. As Christians, we are all created to become the leaders in HIs Kingdom on earth, we need to set the example.

If you are offended by a family member or friend, have the courage to ask the questions and get clarification in person, on the phone or Facetime. Resolving issues by email or social media is perceived as trying to hide which is cowardly and immature.

Try not to assume the worst first, find compassion and love first. Ask to have Jesus’ eyes and understanding for the person.

If it is someone else’s message or behavior that you don’t agree with, then pray for them. When you pray you are allowing God and His Kingdom to intervene. When you accuse, name call and attack, you are opening the doors to the kingdom of darkness over you and in you. Many times, you may have to agree to disagree.

It’s also possible that your perception may be wrong. Perception is not truth. Many people assume things but really don’t know the truth or the whole story. Remember satan is also a liar and a deceiver. He whispers into our thoughts, so people agree with him.

Verbal attacks like slander and name calling, is not acceptable to God in any context, no matter what your excuses or opinions are. They are still His children. If you are seeking justice, or accountability you better have the facts and the truth, not opinions, or assumptions. I believe in keeping people accountable but verbal attacks won’t do it. Let God be the vindicator. (Ps 7:6 - Rom 12:19)

The Bible states in Colossians 3:12-15 “Be merciful as you endeavor to understand others, and be compassionate , showing kindness towards all. Be gentle and humble, unoffendable in your patience with others. Tolerate the weaknesses of those in the family of faith, forgiving one another in the same way you have been forgiven by Jesus Christ…Love becomes the mark of true maturity.. Let your heart be always guided by the peace of the Anointed One, who called you to peace as part of His one body”.

Choose love, choose peace, choose to see things from the Father’s perspective.

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Be free in order to be mighty for Jesus!

in freedom and might,


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