top of page


Updated: Jun 12

Who is your security in?

Definition of INSECURE:

uncertainty or anxiety about oneself, lack of confidence (google dictionary)

deficient in assurance; beset by fear and anxiety, not highly stable, or well adjusted, not confident (Webster’s dictionary)

The opposite of insecure is CONFIDENT

One of the main reasons given to explain why men are abusive, or oppressive, is because of INSECURITIES. Because they don’t feel secure or confident about themselves or their abilities, they try to control their situations, their environment, people, their wife, seeking safety or security in themselves, instead of God. The more controlling or abusive, the higher their insecurities. When fear and insecurity gain control of a situation or a person, the result is oppression. The insecure are threatened by what they can’t control. They have not come under the authority and Love of Christ since perfect love drives out fear (1 John 4:18). See my manual “Let My Women Go” for how to recognize the profile of an emotionally abusive man and the impact on women and children.

Confidence comes from knowing who you are in Christ and Christ in you. From knowing His Word, His promises for you and what He says about you. When anyone is firmly abiding in Jesus, The Vine, they will produce the Fruits of the Spirit: LOVE, JOY, PEACE, PATIENCE, KINDNESS, GOODNESS, GENTLENESS and SELF-CONTROL. Only when we surrender our need to dominate and control to Christ do we find life and freedom.

The Bible says, “By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another” (John 13:35). We cannot say we LOVE someone and try to control or abuse them. The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

Love does not abuse, control, dominate, impose, or demand.

Our security should be found IN JESUS, “Those who truly know their God are the most confident, humble and peaceful people on earth” (Rick Joyner, There Were Two Trees in the Garden)

Get my book, "Before the Ring and Beyond" to learn the many tools for a healthy marriage. Learn about getting rid of insecurities, growing as an individual, effective healthy communication and much more.

Also my book "Let My Women Go!" to understand oppression and abuse, pride and arrogance. To be free to be the person God created you to be, a Mighty Warrior to help disciples nations and advance His Kingdom on earth.

Be free in order to be mighty for Jesus!

In freedom and might,


27 views0 comments


bottom of page